Yesterday I read one of the most frustrating blog posts I’ve ever come across. The post is titled “Saying Goodbye To Friends Who Reject Jesus,” and it’s filled to the brim with vitriolic rejection of people who merely have differing opinions about god than the author. Let me be clear: She’s not merely saying that she rejects people who don’t believe in god, she’s turning her back on friendships that date back to her childhood because they live lifestyles with which she disagrees (I’m not exactly sure what those lifestyles are).
Your non-Christian friends may say they believe in God, but reject Him with their lifestyles, or have set up their own false god, one who is okay with sin. And to stay friends with people who continue to deny their need of repentance and salvation from sin, is to deny and disobey Christ.
She then quotes a bunch of bible verses, including 2 John 1:10-11, which tells Christians to deny anyone who doesn’t live by Jesus. She finishes her post like this:
Sometimes, there are people in our lives we were once very close to that we have to say goodbye to now for Jesus. To stay friends with someone who continues to reject Him is to befriend an enemy of His.
I immediately replied that I thought this was a horrible message. She replied with a metaphor about whether or not we should be friends with people who hate our spouses. To this another user — quite possibly a Christian, but he never identified himself as one — replied with the following:
To you analogy: OK, so I’ll pretend someone hates my wife. Let’s call her Sarah. Would I want Sarah in my life? Probably not. But what if my wife was perfectly patient and kind and loving, and what if she desperately wanted to be in Sarah’s life because she wants to save her from eternal suffering? Well, then I’d do everything I could for Sarah! I would just casually tell her good things about my wife and live a good life in hopes that Sarah’s curiosity would eventually peak. I wouldn’t reject Sarah out of petty, protective loyalty unless she stood to do my wife harm.
This post underscores the dangers of religious thinking. This is intolerance at best, hatred at worst. This is precisely the kind of thinking that leads to mothers and fathers kicking their unbelieving children to the streets. This is precisely the kind of thinking that destroys families and friendships (which it did in this case). And this is precisely the kind of thinking that leads to people picketing funerals. She hasn’t gotten that far yet, and I hope she won’t. But this is just awful.
To make matters worse, a young woman also commented on the post, “Looking back I encourage every believer to cut off friends that obviously disregard God.” In other words, this could be systemic rather than an isolated case of intolerance.